I opened my Facebook page this morning and found a message from a friend who recently moved to Connecticut.
Hey Sarla, I have been sober for 15 + years, but it’s only one day for me!! I really like your posts and brutal honesty.
My response...
Oh thank you so much for reaching out. That means so much to me. Tell me what you like most about being sober as opposed to drinking. I am so close. Wish I had never started again. So much harder to quit now…..not as desperate as I was in 1990. Drinking much less than I did then. So much easier to rationalize my drinking, but I know in my heart of hearts I am missing a part of me. It is lying at the bottom of a wine bottle.
His reply….
It’s mostly about self-respect for me, I grew up in an alcoholic environment with incredibly low self-esteem and was full if fear. In my old fearful low esteem state I would make stupid decisions surrounding work, family and friends. They were not my real emotions, I spent so much time trying to protect my drinking that it just wore me out. Do I miss a cold beer? Yes, I do! Drinking just became all-encompassing, it ruled all of my decision-making. So now, years later I have respect for myself and it also gave me the spiritual tools to grow.
One story: my sister was living in Sausalito in a container cooking meth 13 years ago and she called me for help, I told I would get her into a 1/2 way house but it’s all I could do, I was spent, she did it she got it, she had nothing, today she has a good job, practices yoga and is the light of my life, if she could come back from that, I know I can stay sober on a daily basis…but it’s all about today, tomorrow, who knows??! To thine own self be true…
And I said…
Just spoke with my husband. Making a commitment to go to AA on Monday night December 2. We are leaving town today to stay with friends in Virginia over the holidays. Thank you for your words of encouragement. I sometimes wonder if I would have sold Midtown Yoga had I been sober. I guess that’s the hardest part about stopping drinking….forgiving myself, owning my mistakes, and moving on. I know God has a purpose for me, but when I am floating at the bottom of a wine bottle, there is no way for me to see what that is.
He continued the thread….
You can do it, don’t look back look forward. Sometimes you just need to tell yourself that my way is not working, surrender and ask for help and I know you will be amazed…
My last response….
I know. I just have to do it. It is time. I also told Jimmy that getting sober must be the most important thing in my life. It must be my first priority. I have to put my sobriety above all else. That is how I did it before and it worked. Anything less will not do. I will send you a message after my meeting on Monday night. I will send you a message after my meeting on Monday night. Again, thank you so much. Funny how God works…you reaching out to me and me finally being ready to hear you.
He finished with this. ….You have helped me more than you know, god bless
I am moving toward the light. Writing in to the Light. I see the light at the surface. I will make it, one day at a time.
I am stone cold sober and loving every minute of it. Thy will be done.