Damn. Where do I start? How do I write about contentment. I only know how to write skilfully about depression, anxiety, sadness and the like so I have a problem. I do not feel depressed, anxious, sad, etc. Is it worth writing if the subject of one’s writing is “another good day? I was taught that dram and turmoil at the great subjects of true literature. Anna Karenina, War and Peace, Reservoir Dogs, Catcher in the Rye, Cat on a Hot Tin Roof. More recently Doubt, Grace, Angels in America.
I have nothing related to pathos about which I am compelled to write. So I write Haiku. It’s okay, but it lacks the depth I long for. Perhaps I am hovering over something I am afraid to see, afraid to look to face. I don’t think so. I am content. I feel whole. I am healthy. I am happy. I like the work I do and I believe I am very good at it. I love my husband and am grateful for my children, their success and their well-being. I do not feel deprived or helpless or down trodden. I no longer feel like a victim of my god awful childhood. I have no fear about the future. I have a comfortable life filled with meaningful work and good friends, new friends. Today I have friendships I value, people with whom I want to spend time. My friends are no longer just my drinking buddies. I have girlfriends with whom I share a deep connection and with whom I have never had a drink. That’s different. Not even something I went looking for. They came into my life. I liked them so we spend time with one another.
I sit here now at 8:00 pm in my bed with my stuffed animals, Fruffy the dog. That is what Amelia calls him. And the green Monkey also known as Papa Monkey. Jimmy, my husband, said this morning that he no longer knew with whom he was sleeping, me or Amelia. He was referring to a bed full of stuffed toys. I hold them, at night, next to my breast. They are for me, the childhood I never had and my connect to the granddaughter whom I love. They are joy. She is joy. I am joyful.
Tomorrow we leave for DC and from there to Little Washington, Virginia for our friend, Steve’s 60th birthday, a blue grass festival on the lawn of his gentleman farmer’s estate. I will definitely be posting pictures.
This is contentment.