Monday – avoiding the frozen view

Having just returned from a wonderful week at the beach, I find it difficult to move with enthusiasm back into a day of work albeit an easy one with just one private lesson this morning and a public class this afternoon.  Combine the end of vacation with a still healing foot sprain and what do you get?  . . . someone who has not done a full yoga practice in over a week.  I sit with some regularity on the floor, even when not injured, but this week I have  spent an inordinate amount of time on the ground.  I have done multiple twists, forward folds, abdominal work, and, thanks to my loving husband who blew up the exercise ball, several supported back bends.  I am curious how my experience this past week will play out in my teaching today and in the days to come.

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With that in mind, I am going to finish my coffee, meditate, do what yoga I can and turn, with at least curiosity, toward the day that lies ahead.  I will meet this day with openness and possibility.  I find that anytime I have a frozen view about how I think my day will go, I limit my capacity to be open and awake to what is happening in any given moment.  Then I feel separate as if I were viewing the world from behind prison bars.  I want to be fully engaged in my life whatever the circumstances.  I managed to go and spend a week at the beach without focusing on the limitation of a sprained foot.  Surely I can bring a similarly open mind to a day of work.

April 11 – One Year, One Day at a Time – Commitment to Notice

Today I commit to being curious, to noticing when I feel the need to bump into something or someone in order to validate my own existence.

Chogyam Trungpa Rimpoche says, “boredom is important because boredom is anticredential.  Credentials are entertaining, always bring you something new, something lively, something fantastic, all kinds of solutions. When you take away the idea of credentials, then there is boredom.”

I commit to being with time in its great wisdom as it opens up huge empty spaces.  May I be willing to be bored.

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Biopsy

I have known for over a week that I will be having a biopsy on my right breast today.  I had a mammogram 10 days ago that revealed a mass, tiny, but problematic enough to call for a deeper look.  I woke up in the middle of the night thinking about the procedure.  What does it mean?  What will it reveal?  Between prayer and meditation, I drifted in and out of sleep, concern, annoyance and irritability.

How do I feel about this biopsy, about the possibility of having a second round of cancer in less than three years?  Honestly, it is surreal.  I just read in the Commercial Appeal that Robert Tayloe. a well-known Memphis realtor and pillar of the community, died last Friday after a long fought battle with cancer.  F _ _ king cancer!  I say that and then I think, why cancer?  It is like an internal pack man-eating us alive.  No rhyme or reason.  You have cancer.  There I said it.  The possibility is always there waiting to erupt.  If not today, later.

Perhaps I am closer to accepting death than I have ever been.  Odd because for years I wanted to die even considered suicide.  I was afraid to live, afraid of the friction of life, the waves of unseen energy and experience that erode and shape us like stones on a riverbed.  But not so today.  I love my life.  In learning to love life, to embrace it fully, I have accepted death as a part of life.  Death makes life ever more precious, beautiful, miraculous.  Every cloud, every star, the smile on Amelia’s face, dinner with the neighbors, teaching yoga, going to see friends in Chicago, petting my lab who almost died from a gastric blockage….every event, every minute of every day is alive with possibility and wonder.

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What if we envision death as an old friend who has come to spend our time with us, to share our last moments here on earth instead of as the grim reaper, who breaks into our homes and steals our most valuable possession, our life?  Friend or foe, death will come.  Perhaps it is in the way we greet her, what we say to our family when she comes, whether we have made peace with ourselves, perhaps our world view determines the quality of our death.

Guess that is how I feel about the biopsy I am having at 12:45 today.  Curious.  We shall see.

Total Eclipse of The Sun

Be careful what you ask for because you will more than likely get it.  Three days ago I committed to be generous beyond all else.  As soon as I said it out loud, I was tested.  On the way to teach my private lesson on Thursday morning, traffic backed up on Walnut Grove, the route I normally take.  As we inched along cars were changing lanes, merging off the expressway and moving to get further to the left trying to speed up.  I left the house in plenty of time, but traffic was almost at a stand still.  I began to feel agitated, worried that I would be late.  Then I remembered my commitment.  I eased up and let other cars pull in front of me.  Miraculously, I relaxed even felt joyful. As we made our way to my turn off I reflected on the difference I felt when aggression and worry were my priorities and when I noticed, relaxed and let go into generosity.   I instantly experienced more spaciousness.  Not being self-absorbed was a relief.

You know how you feel  when the sun is so hot you can hardly stand being outside. Finding a cool spot becomes an obsession.  Pema Chodron, writer and Buddhist nun, recommends a different strategy.   Why not lean into the heat, feel it, taste it, notice it, relax and let go.  Running from discomfort creates more disease, whereas, softening into any feeling blocks the intensity.  Similarly, when there is an eclipse of the sun, sun is still there but it is dark, the air is cool.  There is no need to run for cover.

I am grateful for the teachings that call me into consciousness, that make me aware of my tendencies to bolt, to rage, to run when I confronted with discomfort.  I am trying to stay put, to feel the feelings, taste the fear, rest in the sadness, touch the anger and relax.  Key word here is relax.

I can only imagine what ancient men and women felt and thought when they saw  a solar eclipse.

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“The sun just went dark.  Where did it go?  What will we do without the sun.  Look there is something covering it.  It’s the end of the world.”  Of course this is speculation on my part, but the reality is our go to emotion when threatened is fear.  What if they had said, “Look there is an object in front of the sun, moving across it.  That is incredible.  We know so little about nature.  We have so much to learn.”  Open mindedness, curiosity, a willingness to deeply explore and be with everything that arises, all situations…. that is the way I want to live.

Even on the grayest of days, the sun remains steady in the sky.  We need only await its return.  Practicing generosity in the face of fear opens our hearts to the present moment, to the needs of others and eases our fight of flight responses.  Life is workable.  Life is good.

Eat, Sleep, Poop – Motivation?

Miss my morning latte.  My sweet husbands gets up and says, “I’ll let you know when the coffee is ready.”  He leans over to kiss me and leaves the room.  I roll over and catch a few more minutes of sleep.  Sometimes I get up.  Just like that.  I rise up, put on my robe and slippers and head to the bathroom.  Rod Stryker said, “Life is the movement from the bedroom, to the bathroom, to the kitchen, to the bathroom and back to the bed.” Pretty much sums it up.  We eat, poop and sleep, something like that.

So what motivates us to fill the time in between sleeping, eating and defecating? Even our ancestors, the cave men, had time on their hands otherwise we would not have seen the evolution of technology over the centuries.  They created tools that moved us from the Stone Age into Bronze Age and forward to the Iron each of which is distinguished by the development of technology.  What motivated them to sit down and play with the materials they had at hand, to create something from seemingly nothing?  Isn’t that what we as writers do every time we sit down at our computers or our notebooks?

As a yoga teacher, I have prepared for classes in a multitude of ways.  I have written out class plans some based on the anatomy of the practice, others on philosophical themes, sutras, ancient teachings, mantras, still others on a what we in the yoga world call a “peak” poses, sequencing the class specifically to help the students successfully do a more challenging pose like ashtavakrasana.

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What I have found is that I do my best teaching with no plan at all.  If I do my personal asana practice, if I meditate, and empty my cup coming to the studio with an open mind and open heart, the teachings flow through me.  I sit with the students as class begins, eyes closed, breathing and I silently say, “Please let what I teach tonight be what these students need at this time.”  And it works.  I am a channel, a portal, I disseminate and create from what I know, what I have learned and what lies beyond understanding.

So do you suppose the cave man sat down one day at the fire and said to himself, “I need to  figure out a better way to get wood for my fire.  I have learned how to make fire by placing a leaf in the sun, by rubbing two sticks together, but now I need more wood to make a bigger, longer lasting fire.”  He had to be curious.  He had to recognize a need and believe that there was a solution.  He trusted his instincts.  He was observant.  In searching for materials to make a tool for wood cutting, this man or woman had to understand what a sharp object was and how it could be used.  Perhaps he started with a rough edged rock binding it to a sturdy stick with a vine.  “Looks pretty good,” he thinks.  He walks to the nearest tree and tries to chop off a limb.  The tree is alive so the branch is fibrous.  He cannot easily cut through it.   When he does manage to get it down,he throws it into his fire only to discover that a green limb does not burn well.  It smokes and smolders and gives off little heat.  Now what?  He remembers the wood he has used he collected off the ground.  It is dead wood.  Light bulb!  “I need to find a dead tree and chop branches off of it.”  And so it goes.  Bigger tools for bigger jobs, using fire to make more durable materials out of what he finds.  Bonding one thing to another, melting, crafting, making molds, until one day there is bronze and now this man who started with nothing can break rock and build specific structures shaped for his particular needs.  When his needs are met, he becomes more creative, making things of beauty, embellishing what he makes with other found objects, pieces of shiny rock…. Now he has jewelry to wear and to offer in trade for things others have learned to make.

Whole communities are established out of the need for shelter and food and as men and women come together they share ideas.  The ability to create and build is enhanced by common interests, needs and the innate desire to be creative, to ornament, decorate and beautify everyday objects.  Out of nothing comes a work of art, an expression of the soul’s desire to expand beyond its limits.  This is the basic principle of Tantric Yoga.  All of life longs to thrive, has the potential to overcome obstacles, to stretch beyond limitations, to pulse energetically with the wave of creation referred to in Tantra as Spanda.  In the ancient language of Sanskrit, the definition of Spanda is the vibration, the creative pulsation of the universe; the sacred vibration that exists within us.  Spanda is a quivering, a palpitation, a throbbing, a quickening that moves us from one place to a better place, to a place where we understand more, where we innovate, we are more capable of using our innate gifts to create something out of seemingly nothing.

Words on a page, the discovery of quarks, telescopes to see beyond the stars, satellites that float in space able to track our every move, cell phones, and computers, all created in the space between the time we eat, sleep and poop. It all started with a stick and a rock or maybe a leaf and two sticks.  Pretty cool.